Marriage Monday: “A husband is cool, A best friend is better” Edition

Papa and I have had some really bad times in our marriage…some really really bad times.

What kept us pushing forward through all of those bad times? 

The foundation of friendship. 

Papa was my friend before he was my lover. He knew me. He loved me before ever receiving anything from me. During the times I wrestled with walking away, the thought of losing my best friend caused more grief than the thought of losing my husband. 

That’s what led me to stay. Not our child. Not material things, but our friendship. 

The thought of losing the comfort of a listening ear. The protection that comes with a concerned heart. The laughter that kept us afloat amid troubled water - kept me holding on in hope of better days. There wasn’t another relationship in my life that could replace what our friendship provided. 

That foundation gave us the ability, to be honest with one another. The ability to build, support, and be patient with one another. Most importantly, it gave us the ability to forgive one another. 

I’ll be honest, had it not been for our friendship, we would have never made it through those tough times. Our friendship saved our marriage. 

Having a husband is cool but a best friend is better.