At times I remember wondering, “what the hell is wrong with Papa?” He was going through something. I could feel it but with every question, I could see him shutting down. It used to bother me. I used to take it personally. What I eventually realized, sometimes it’s not my right to know what he’s going through but it’s my duty to take him to the throne in prayer, step back, and allow God to carry him through it.
Read MoreAdulting is hard. We can all agree on that. Adulting while raising three little people and managing a household makes things a little more complicated and oftentimes leaves both Papa and me with little time for ourselves.
Read MoreDid you know papa and I almost broke up over a snickers ice cream bar?! A few years later we fell out over a turtle’s pecan cluster! It sounds silly, I know, but it has been a consistent issue within our marriage. I think he’s inconsiderate for not asking. He thinks I’m selfish for not sharing! One of the greatest obstacles couples face is developing and maintaining healthy communication in the midst of conflict.
Read MoreI spent the majority of my life in the church. From childhood to adulthood, I sat listening to pastors preach about all aspects of life. While it seemed as if every topic was covered, I was an adult, and a few years into my marriage, before I heard a sermon that addressed sex in a positive way.
Read MoreAs Christians, we teach about the sanctity of sex. How it was created by God, establishing the sacred union between husband and wife. Yet, most refuse to actually talk about sex within marriage. I don’t mean to discuss what it symbolizes but actually talk about the pleasure it should bring to all involved.
Read MoreI almost stabbed him a month ago.
I’m kidding…
Not really but marriage is hard AF. There’s no other way to describe it. But why is it so hard? Why is it so difficult to spend our lives with the one person we promised forever to?
Read MoreHow do you protect the strongest person in your life?
The very person that has surrounded you with loving protection at every moment, since the day you met? How do you protect the one that has seen more than your eyes could bare and your heart could handle? For 15 years I’ve walked beside Papa. Within that time, I’ve learned that as invincible as he may appear, my protector needs protection. Being able to identify when life is weighing him down, activates my ability to protect him.
Read MoreI knew that would get your attention…Is it unconventional for a man to pay for sex? What about a husband paying to have sex with his wife? What is your definition of ‘paying’?
Read MoreHave you ever had to forgive someone you loved for breaking your heart? As children, we were taught to say, “I forgive you” every time someone told us sorry. It was expected of you. We may have said they were forgiven but we often spent all day thinking of a way to get them back. As adults, we see forgiveness through the eyes of that same child.
Read MoreIt’s hard to believe the one you are so madly in love with now could be the one you despise in just a few years. It happens. It happens more often than we would like to admit. It happened to me. One minute I was head over heels for Papa, the next he was the target of my resentment. I can’t really tell you why.
Read MoreNo one talks about death. Yes, we talk about heaven and eternal life, but we don’t discuss death with our loved ones in the way that we should. I am not one of those people. It’s odd not to discuss something that is absolutely guaranteed for us all.
Read MoreSo many times, I sit across from women who feel lost. They’ve poured everything they had into their children and their marriage and they feel depleted. Left with only pieces of who they use to be and who they one day aspired to be.
Read MoreI’ve always struggled with self-esteem. Something Papa quickly learned once we began dating. I wasn’t looking for him to fix it. However, he quickly took on the job of making sure he poured constant positivity into my spirit.
Read MoreA few months before we got married Papa and I wrote a list. Our son was 8 months old and we were preparing to get married. During a time of excitement and new beginnings, we were working on each other’s nerves. It was the little things that had us at odds. At the time, our communication was terrible, making it impossible for us to constructively address our issues.
Read MoreYes, I said it. I ask God to give us mind-blowing sex. Uninhibited, all bets are off, you gone remember this until the next time, mind-blowing sex.
Why wouldn’t I?
Read MoreWhat was intended to be forever must be protected at all costs.
After 12 years of marriage, I’ve learned to keep my boxing gloves on. Not for Papa, but for those who come for him. For those who come for our union. For those who wish our forever never began and for those who simply deny its existence.
Read MorePapa and I have had some really bad times in our marriage, some really really bad times. What kept us pushing forward through all of those bad times? The foundation of friendship. Papa was my friend before he was my lover. He knew me. He loved me before ever receiving anything from me. During the times I wrestled with walking away, the thought of losing my best friend caused more grief than the thought of losing my husband.
Read MoreI remember being told how lucky I am to have a husband like Papa. Honestly, I’ve heard that a lot. It’s true. Papa can be amazing. He is a wonderful provider, a loving father, and my best friend. He’s loved me in ways no man has or ever could. He cares for me, protects me, and always has my best interest at heart. ⠀
But don’t be mistaken…I am the prize.⠀
A soul tie refers to a spiritual connection between two people. Coming into existence after two people have been physically intimate. It’s like spiritual entanglement (see what I did there😂)⠀
But seriously…⠀
I will never forget the moment our marriage counselor looked me straight in the face and said, “God didn’t give you a husband to make you happy, that’s not his job.”
Excuse me!? Yes, the hell it is – of course, I didn’t say this out loud because we were at the church but I was thinking it!
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