Marriage Monday: "A Prayer For The Bedroom" Edition

“For everything God created is good.” - 1 Timothy 4:4 

I spent the majority of my life in the church. From childhood to adulthood, I sat listening to pastors preach about all aspects of life. While it seemed as if every topic was covered, I was an adult, and a few years into my marriage, before I heard a sermon that addressed sex in a positive way. I’ve heard countless sermons about fornication and adultery but never did I hear one that talked about the beauty of sex. How sex within marriage was this amazing gift that should be cultivated, experienced with an open mind, and pleasurable for both partners. While I’ve always known this to be true, it always seemed as if sex should only be discussed behind closed doors.

Well, let me tell you, hearing that message turned on a light that opened up my eyes and my conversations to the beauty of this gift. It also created an entirely new aspect of my prayer life. 

It seemed odd at first. Only because I held on to the false belief that it was inappropriate to ask God to maximize the pleasure within my marriage. I had to overcome my apprehension through scripture. Filling my prayer journal with verses that address the marital bed. I also had to do some ‘healing maintenance’. Reassuring my spirit that I was free from past trauma and mistakes I’ve made regarding sex. Once I acknowledged my healing and the forgiveness I had already received, I was comfortable with having those conversations with God. Over time, it became a regular topic during prayer. 

Entrusting God with your sex life is no different than entrusting him with your marriage. Intimacy deepens the marital relationship. Creating a bond that can’t be replicated in any other relationship. God wants us to cultivate and enjoy the act of building these bonds through intimacy and sex. I mean, have you read Proverbs 5:18-19? An amazing sex life has the ability to strengthen your marriage. 

So why not pray about it?

Mark 11:24 says, “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.” If praying for your sex life is a new concept or you struggle with intimacy within your marriage, here’s a prayer that can help acknowledge God’s ability to move in your relationship and your bedroom. 

Lord,

Thank you for the opportunity to be intimate with my spouse. I thank you for the gift of sex and the ability to show and receive physical affection and pleasure. 

I pray that neither of us comes short of your grace or falls short of each other’s expectations. I pray against any past trauma that may disrupt the special moments we share. (Hebrews 12:15)

Father, guide us as we fulfill each other’s desires taking authority over one another in a healthy and loving way (1 Corinthians 7:3-4)

Allow our love for one another to transcend our bodies into an ecstasy that no other man or woman can provide. Give us patience for one another (1Corinthians 13:4-6) and allow us to enjoy the bodies you created (Genesis 1:27-28)

1 Corinthians 10:31 says “whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” We lift up our marital bed to you, and through the pleasure, we seek to provide each other, we ask that it strengthens our marriage and brings glory to your kingdom. 

In your son’s name, we pray

Amen.