Marriage Mondays: "Dirty Conversations" Edition
As Christians, we teach about the sanctity of sex. How it was created by God, establishing the sacred union between husband and wife. Yet, most refuse to actually talk about sex within marriage. I don’t mean to discuss what it symbolizes but actually talk about the pleasure it should bring to all involved.
If sex is a gift, why as believers we are so reluctant to discuss it publicly? Surface-level conversations regarding the topic have left so many marriages in the state of an emergency. Without the resources and skills to address the issue, many couples settle for a pleasureless marriage. Missing out on the connection and friendship that’s established through physical intimacy. Your marital bed is a safe space. Created for the enjoyment of both husband and wife. Exploration and satisfaction do not have an expiration date, nor should they disappear as your marriage matures.
Life and relationships can bring new challenges every day. Some challenges can pose a threat to your sex life. Addressing them early on is key to maintaining a healthy & satisfying sex life. Some of those challenges can include lack of sexual satisfaction, desire to try something new, change in libido, lack of intimacy, or need for more affection.
Communication isn’t reserved for certain areas of your relationship. It’s for ALL areas of your relationship. Communication has no boundaries. Nothing should be off-topic, including your sex life.
Addressing your concerns can be hard. Having this conversation can spark tension, misunderstanding, and many other emotions. However, you can create a safe space for you and your partner through active listening and understanding of their emotional and physical needs. while still being assertive in communicating your own.
prepare yourself before going to your partner, mentally and emotionally. Journal about your feelings and what it is that you need. Spend some time in prayer, asking God to help you process those feelings before approaching your spouse.
Once you’re ready to initiate the conversation, schedule a time to talk to your partner about the issue. Don’t surprise them or bring it up in a public place. Be honest about your feelings without belittling or talking down to them. Don’t expect the issue to be resolved after one conversation.
Like most things, changing the atmosphere of your love life will take time. Be intentional and consistent when planning moments of intimacy and remember practice makes perfect!!!